Fall – Post 376

Fall is my favorite time of year. I find the explosion of color that comes with the season to be so inspiring and serene at the same time. On a personal level, deep in my soul it validates my belief in God. It is the most beautiful time of year.   kaleidoscopic

I came across this poem and just had to share it with you.

“I love fall! Fall is exciting.
It’s apples and cider.
It’s an airborne spider.
It’s pumpkins in bins.
It’s burrs on dog’s chins.
It’s wind blowing leaves.
It’s chilly red knees.
It’s nuts on the ground.
It’s a crisp dry sound.
It’s green leaves turning
And the smell of them burning.
It’s clouds in the sky.
It’s fall. That’s why…
I love fall.”
–   Author Unknown


7 Habits of Highly Confident People – Post 375

7 Habits of Highly Confident People

If you were to pick seven habits all highly confident people
have, which habits would you choose?

Confidence is an outcome of developing many different habits. Here are seven essential habits you need to develop in yourself in order to become a highly confident and successful person.

1. Acting As If

Brian Tracy once said that “confidence is a habit that can be developed by acting as if you already had the confidence you desire to have”. Even though acting as a confident person when you’re shy won’t make you a confident person overnight, it will help you develop an appearance of a confident person which will attract confident people to you.

Here are a few small habits which will make you appear as a person who has the confidence you desire to have:

  • have the right body language (AVOID: crossed arms, sitting in the back of the room, taking as little space as you can, staring at the floor)
  • don’t be hesitant – if you want to do something, do it without hesitation. There is nothing which reveals your low self-confidence more than acting as if you aren’t sure what to do
  • imitate successful and confident people – find a “self-confidence role model” (it can be an actor, businessman, scientist, thought leader etc.) and imitate him or her. Keep in mind that it isn’t about being a fake – simply imitate things which are in harmony with your nature and which make you appear more confident.

2. Unwavering Decision

Every decision a highly confident person makes is an unwavering decision. There is no “IF”, there is only “WHEN” and “HOW”. Since we make decisions every day, it’s one of the most important habits of highly confident people. If you want to achieve something, you have to commit yourself to it. It’s a basic principle of all confident and successful people. Make things happen. No backing off, no giving up!

3. Showing Up

Woody Allen, one of the most successful actors and directors, once said that 80 percent of life is showing up. He explains it further in his interview for the Collider (2008):

“People used to always say to me that they wanted to write a play, they wanted to write a movie, they wanted to write a novel, and the couple of people that did it were 80 percent of the way to having something happen. All the other people struck out without ever getting that pack. They couldn’t do it, that’s why they don’t accomplish a thing, they don’t do the thing, so once you do it, if you actually write your film script, or write your novel, you are more than half way towards something good happening. So that I was say my biggest life lesson that has worked. All others have failed me.”

Learn from Woody Allen’s biggest life lesson: stop talking about things that you want to do and start doing these things. There is no self-confidence (and no success) without showing up.

4. Spending Time with the Right People

Have you ever noticed that rich people and poor people usually don’t hang together? It isn’t because the rich don’t want to do anything with the poor because they’re poor – it’s because poor people exhibit kind of behavior and mentality which the rich don’t relate to.

Can you blame successful people because they don’t want to spend time with people who have completely different views on life?

It’s the same with self-confidence. In school, popular confident kids usually stick together and shy kids are outside of their social circle. Later in life, most people who were shy in school still don’t interact with confident people. As a result, they remain shy for the rest of their lives.

If you want to evolve, your social circle has to evolve with you. Confident people know that if you keep spending time with people who are more confident than you, you’re going to become more confident as well. If you keep spending time with people who are shy, sooner or later they’ll keep you down. Choose the right people to spend your time with.

5. Never-Ending Self-Improvement

Self-confidence and self-improvement go together. Highly confident people became and will remain confident because they decided to start a never-ending self-improvement journey. Learning something new every single day is one of the most crucial habits all confident and successful people have.

When was the last time you learned something new? When was the last time you learned something new which you can use to become a more confident person? Here are a few things which you can learn to help you become a more confident person:

  • improve your conversation and public speaking skills (join a local Toastmasters group)
  • read spiritual books which will help you learn to live in the present and stop caring about opinions of other people
  • improve the quality of your voice
  • start working out and improve your physique (learn how to do the most important core exercises correctly)
  • learn how to eat healthy (read a few books, learn recipes)

6. Taking Responsibility for Everything

Highly confident people never blame anyone for their own mistakes. Every successful person will agree that if you want to learn how to believe in yourself, you have to realize that you are responsible for both your successes and your failures.

If you were looking for one of the most important mindsets you need to develop in yourself in order to take charge of your life and become a confident successful person, here it is:

“Everything that happens to me – good and bad – is my personal responsibility. I blame no one but myself. These are the choices I’ve made – this is the life I’m living. I will accept the consequences of my actions.” – Craig Ballantyne

7. Being True to Your Word

Confident people are people on whom you can depend. You can’t become a leader if you don’t deliver on your promises.

People who believe in themselves are the same people other people believe in. However, first you have to learn how to be true to your word to yourself (by setting goals and not backing off as explained before) and later you’ll earn the trust of other people. As most people know, trust is the most important part of doing business.

Imagine that you’re an investor. Would you trust an entrepreneur who would say that he’s going to provide you with a business report within 48 hours and then who wouldn’t deliver on his promise? Exactly. Being true to your word is an essential habit of all confident people who want to achieve success – whether in business, relationships or life in general.

What are you waiting for? Time to get to work on your habits!

Keys To Building Solid Relationships – Post 373

Keys To Building Solid Relationships

People like to do business with people they know and trust. This is why building solid relationships is so important. Relationship-building can take many forms but some elements are essential to all. Let’s take a moment to review some of these essentials that will help you nurture and grow solid relationships within your organization.

Your 30-Second Introduction

Have you upgraded your 30-second introduction lately? If you haven’t revised it in the last twelve months, it’s probably stale. A new introduction can spark energy and enthusiasm—in yourself as well as others. Consider infusing powerful action words like “create,” “design,” “organize,” “generate,” “solve,” and “produce”. Deliver it in front of a mirror or camcorder and see what others see.

A Two-Way Street. What’s in it for them? We often think of what we want to get from relationships. Flip this over and consider what you’re willing to give to your down-line. Do you have knowledge or techniques that will help your down-line be successful? Keep in mind that building relationships is a two-way street, so to speak, that begins with you. Approaching relationships in a giving, proactive mode is an excellent beginning.
Follow up, Follow up, Follow up

The simple act of following up with your customers or business builders will make you stand out with them. To follow-up impactfully, always remember to create a contact management list first. You may start to see growth as you demonstrate an interest in relationship building with your down-line members, and additional growth as they, in turn, start to do the same.

Time and Patience

You might want to think of building business relationships the same way as you would grow a garden. Gardening requires nurturing, resources (water, Bloomin’ Minerals™, sunlight, etc.), and patience. But the results (a bountiful harvest) are worth it. Similarly, developing healthy, productive relationships also requires nurturing (followup) resources (sharing of knowledge) and patience. And the results are definitely worth it!

Vanessa Hunter
Vice President of Marketing
AL International

Daily Action Steps for Success – Post 372

Daily Action Steps for Success

  • Write out a few excuses you might be clinging to (e.g., not smart enough, no experience, wrong upbringing, don’t have the education, etc). Decide to make up in hard work and personal development to outcompete anyone — including your old self.
  • Write out the half-dozen small, seemingly inconsequential steps you can take every day that can take your life in a completely new and positive direction.
  • Write down the small, seemingly inconsequential actions you can stop doing that might be compounding your results downward.
  • List a few areas, skills, or outcomes where you have been most successful in the past. Consider whether you could be taking those for granted and are not continuing to improve, and are therefore in jeopardy of having that complacency lead to future failure.

Darren Hardy – the Compound Effect

3 Keys to Greatness – Post 371

Three Keys to Greatness by Jim Rohn

Eight years ago I went into the studio and recorded a 56-minute video for teenagers called “Three Keys to Greatness.” Although my focus was for teenagers, the principles I shared certainly apply to adults as well.
Recently I was asked to list these three keys using a couple sentences for each. Now for your benefit here they are again.
  1. Setting Goals. I call it the view of the future. Most people, including kids, will pay the price if they can see the promise of the future. So we need to help our kids see a well-defined future, so they will be motivated to pay the price today to attain the rewards of tomorrow. Goals help them do this. 
  2. Personal Development. Simply making consistent investments in our self-education and knowledge banks pays major dividends throughout our lives. I suggest having a minimum amount of time set aside for reading books, listening to audiocassettes, attending seminars, keeping a journal and spending time with other successful people. Charlie “Tremendous” Jones says you will be in five years the sum total of the books you read and the people you are around. 
  3. Financial Planning. I call it the 70/30 plan. After receiving your paycheck or paying yourself, set aside 10 percent for saving, 10 percent for investing and 10 percent for giving, and over time this will guarantee financial independence for a teenager.
If a young person, or for that matter an adult, focused on doing these three simple things over a long period of time I believe they will be assured success!
—Jim Rohn

Follow Up – A Key to Your Success – Post 370

Follow Up – A successful first contact, whether in the traditional one-on-one approach (offline) or the one-on-many (online) approach is wasted if you fail to take an important step:

Follow Up.

Sending emails or packages through the mail usually doesn’t get the message across strong enough to your prospects. To achieve any level of success, you have to go the extra mile by making the follow up calls or by picking them up and driving them to a live event.

When following up , you should keep things simple. Answer objections in a calm, confident and professional manner and ALWAYS point to a 3rd party resource tool to get their questions answered. Remember, if your lips are moving, you should be pointing your prospect to a 3rd party tool. This will show them how simple and easy this business is to do, and that they don’t have to be an EXPERT to do this.

And, just because someone says NO to you once, doesn’t mean they’re not interested in you ever contacting them again. Successful people don’t give up that easily.

As always, follow up with a passionate, excited and caring process. This will help you to add new brand partners to your already successful team much easier.

Remember, “People don’t care how much you know, until they know how much you care”
John C. Maxwell

Failure is HARD! – Post 369

Today’s quote comes from Theodore Roosevelt.

“It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried in the first place.” Theodore Roosevelt.

Failing is very difficult. It is psychologically painful. It’s something none of us like to face. I want you to think about Pete Rose. He was one of the greatest baseball players when I was a kid. He won 3 World Series rings, 3 batting titles, one Most Valuable Player, Two Gold Gloves and the Rookie of the year. Not only that, he made 17 All-Star appearances at 5 different positions. He is the all-time Major-League leader in hits with 4256 hits.

Did Pete have any failures? Yes. He struck out 10,328 times. That means approx. 6 out of 10 at bats he failed. Had Pete never tried he would have never had that success. Yes failure is hard but it is much better to at least try because eventually success will come your way.

As the late Jim Rohn always said, “REMEMBER THE SAME WIND BLOWS ON ALL OF US. ITS THE SET OF YOUR SAIL THAT DECIDES YOUR COURSE!!” Set your sail for success today by learning the skills for success. If you would like to learn more about the course I am taking in my life be sure to visit AIMHighForSuccess.com . If you find value in these posts be sure to subscribe to this blog and share these posts with your team.

Overcoming Fear – Post 368

Zig Ziglar on Overcoming Fear

Fear has been correctly identified with the acrostic False Evidence Appearing Real.

The truth is that if we think something is to be feared, that perception becomes the cruelest form of reality.

A second-grade boy was overheard saying, “It’s easy to be brave when you’re not scared.” By the same token, it’s easy to talk about how to overcome fear when you have little to be afraid of. Fear is certainly real for most people and all of us face a fear of something – poverty, divorce, rejection, death, failure, speaking in public, being laughed at, etc.

How do we overcome fear? First we must learn to examine our fears. Example: Giving a speech, which is the number one fear in our country, according to Reader’s Digest. (It’s also a tremendous confidence-builder.) If that’s your fear, ask yourself a few questions. “Why am I afraid to make a speech? Is it because I’m afraid of being rejected? Then why do I think I’ll be rejected?

Do I believe what I’m about to say?

Is my speech worth giving?

Am I proud of the comments I’m about to make?” As you ask yourself these questions, the fear will begin to subside. It subsides because you have explored your subconscious mind with your questions and flushed out some of your fears.

My research indicates that only three people have died while making a speech. Since twelve billion people have lived and only three of them died making a speech, I’d say it’s a fairly safe thing to do.

If you’re a little nervous, consider this: You could lead a mule into a crowded room and he would be so calm that he would almost go to sleep standing up. A thoroughbred in the same situation would be as nervous as a cat.

If you’re a little nervous, just be grateful you’re a thoroughbred – not a mule. So face those inner feelings, stand up and speak up with confidence. When you do, I’ll see you at the top!

Zig Ziglar is a teacher and motivator. He offers a newsletter filled with more of his inspiring stories as well as practical ideas to help you in the areas of sales, marketing, customer service, and related topics. You can visit him at www.zigziglar.com