Seek Clarity – Post 512

Most of us have the desire to either improve or we have a need or challenge in one or more areas in our life. My goal for this blog going forward is to bring valuable information on topics such as time management, money, faith or belief, developing new skills and habits, leadership development, health and wellness, and building better relationships.

Successful people are always the first to act on their desire to continually grow in all areas of their life. So on this blog I’ll be covering topics such as High Performance Habits by Brendon Burchard; Goal building, journaling, and time management skills from Jim Rohn; How to achieve Financial Peace by Dave Ramsey; and many, many more topics from folks like Robert Kiyosaki, John Maxwell, Bob Beaudine, Anthony Robbins, Napoleon Hill and many others.

My goal is to empower you to grow and continually transform yourself through personal development. My invitation is for you to get on this personal development road with me and the invitation is extended to everyone, but, few will join me.

Today we will be discussing Seeking Clarity.

Brendon Burchard in his book “High Performance Habits” says that one of the first habits to reach a higher level of performance personally and professionally is to Seek Clarity. To seek clarity on who you want to be, how you want to interact with others, what YOU want, and what will bring you the greatest meaning.

I invite you to take a sneak peek at what is possible when you seek clarity. I want you to think about those rare questions that most people simply don’t ask themselves. What kind of person do I want to be? What are my intentions and objectives? What if I decide to set and reach higher goals? What if I decide to go for my dreams? What if I can change certain unpleasant things about myself? What if I can significantly make a difference in the lives of others? What can I focus on that will bring me a sense of connection and fulfillment?

It’s from these questions that a new life begins to evolve. Satisfaction in life doesn’t come from focusing on what is automatic, easy or natural for us. It is the result of how we strive consciously to meet life’s harder challenges, to grow beyond our comforts and to deliberately understand, love, serve and lead others.

Personal Development opens up a whole new world of potential and possibilities. I believe the first step in personal development is to find clarity in your life so you can develop a roadmap on how to get from here, where you are today, to where you want to be.

I’ve been a pharmacist now for many years and I have been successful at it and I have a lot to be grateful for. I’ve put my kids through private school, I’ve built my dream home, and we’ve taken nice vacations over the years. It’s just that something inside just doesn’t feel right. I have this sense of frustration and a restlessness that even though life has been good there is something more out there. That I haven’t really found my “thing.” When the lights go out, after all these years of pushing hard in pharmacy my internal chatter starts scratching at my reality and I am sure that many of you have asked yourselves these same or similar questions.

Is all of the complexity I’ve created in my life even worth it?

Is this new direction I want to pursue the right direction for my family and me at this stage of our lives?

Things are good, so if I try something new will everyone think I’m crazy? Am I just being stupid or ungrateful?

I’m stretched pretty thin. Can I really give any more right now?

Am I really good enough to play at the next level?

Why am I starting to feel so distracted?

Why do my relationships feel sort of blah?

I’ve had so much success in my life why am I not more confident at this point in my life?

When these questions go unanswered for too long, an unraveing begins. Day-to-day motivation wanes. You begin felling restrained or unfulfilled. Your passion isn’t at the level it used to be but at least everyone at home and at work is fairly happy.

Ultimately the dissatisfaction spreads into relationships at home or work and others begin to notice. The stress of disappointment imparts a hard edge that loved ones begin to feel. Contribution at work falls off. Calls don’t get returned. Excitement, joy, and confidence are gone and with them goes performance.

I have some questions for you to reflect on.

Are you ready, really ready? Are you tired of being where you are and excited to get where you want to be?

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Will you make the commitment to read? Thin about one great book you have read and the changes it brought about in your life. Now imagine what this next year is going to do for you!

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If personal development is whole life, then which are of your life is in the best shape? Which is the worst? Take some time to think through where you are so you can evaluate where you stand and how you are going to grow in the next year.

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How disciplined are you? Is it something you struggle with, or is it a strength?

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Which are you more focused on: Intake (learning, gathering information) or output (doing, taking action)? We all have a bias, so to speak. The answer to this will determine how you need to make adjustments over the coming year.

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ACTION POINTS:

Any or all of these are great ideas to get you moving toward your goal.

  1. Write down three great books you have read and three great books you want to read. Now, buy one – or pull it off the shelf and start. We recommend Jim’s The Five Major Pieces to the Life Puzzle, his The Seasons of Life, and Napoleon Hill’s book, Think and Grow Rich. If you have already read these books or just have something else in mind, that’s fine. Just start the process of reading daily. We recommend reading the Bible or a book that will spiritually enhance your life in the morning and reading what is on your recommended reading list at night.
  2. Take at least one tangible action to make yourself stronger in the following area that you are weakest in: Physical, Spiritual or Mental. For example, if you are weakest in the physical area, then walk a mile three times this week.
  3. Take an area you lack discipline in and set up a pattern for yourself to follow this week and then do it!
  4. Celebrate the fact that you have accepted the invitation to go on the journey of self-growth and personal development. Regardless of the challenges you may be facing, today is a new day, the beginning of infinite possibilities. As Jim said, “You cannot change your destination overnight, but you can change your direction.” Congratulations on taking that step.
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Building Relationships – Post 430

Each day I try to start out the day by reading different motivational or inspiration pieces. In today’s reading I came across a short post by Joel Osteen called “Work on Your Dreams.” I found it fit quite nicely with a lot of the things I have been posting for the past year or so and I have included his post below for you to enjoy as well.

I have spent a lot of time in the past couple of years on self development, goal setting, and developing an attitude of prosperity and gratitude instead of an attitude of constraint and servitude. For too many years I have worked 70 to 80 hours per week building other peoples dreams. Yes I have nice things as a result of all that work and thought I was working on my dreams. However, what I discovered in the Master Key Master Mind program was that in reality, autonomy and liberty is what I was truly seeking. Long hours working for others would never get me there. The only way to achieve what I really wanted would be to surround myself with others working toward similar goals. To develop my own mastermind group.

Joel mentions that “you want to be around dream-builders, not dream-crashers” and that you should “prune the relationships around you” that weren’t leading you in the right direction. Likewise I have heard many times on this journey of self discovery and self development that your income is an average of the 5 or 10 people that are closest to you in your circle so if you want ot change your income you must change your circle of friends. The problem I had wasn’t that I had the wrong circle of friends. My problem was that I had spent so much time chasing the income I had lost all contact with my circle.

So how do I recreate those relationships?

I recently spent some time with Tom Chenault. Tom has mastered the skill of networking with people and developing relationships and he shared how he develops those relationships. He looks for ways to reach out to people and connect with them so he can learn what he can do for them not what they can do for him.

Over the years he has mastered the art of relationship building by perfecting what he calls “The Coffee Shop Interview.” He never talks about himself, the entire conversation is focused on them. His goal is to learn what it is that makes them tick. What motivates them and what pops their eyes open at 2 am. The entire premise of the coffee shop interview is to, as he fondly says, “be interested not interesting.”

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TODAY’S SCRIPTURE

TODAY’S WORD from Joel and Victoria
Surround yourself with the right people and you can fulfill the dreams God gives you. Put yourself in relationships with people who are not only like-minded, but are also seeking to honor God in their own lives. Here is a thought to consider today: if your friends don’t point you toward God’s goal for you, then they’re not very good friends. You want to be around dream-builders, not dream-crashers!

When you prune the relationships around you, you’re not cutting things out of your life; you’re making room for growth so that you can reach your God-given potential! When you make room for God’s best, you can walk away from the lesser things that the world has to offer.

A PRAYER FOR TODAY
God, I know You have my best in mind and in Your plans. Thank You for placing a dream in my heart and for giving me people to help lead me towards that dream. I pray that my relationships will honor You. In Jesus’ Name. Amen.
— Joel & Victoria Osteen

“ ‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ says the LORD. ‘They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.’ ”
(Jeremiah 29:11, NLT)

Want to be a winner – Post 379

We hear all the time to set goals and then you will have success. In fact the “goal setting” gurus always like to quote a Harvard study that showed that people that set goals had a much higher success rate than those that did not. The fact is, the study never took place.

Think about it. Every “New Year” we set all kinds of goals and how many do we keep?

Almost none of them.

Success actually comes from having a very specific purpose in life. Something that is so big and so specific that we will stop at nothing until we achieved it. That happened to me way back when I decided to go back to college after many years in the work world. To completely abandon everything that I was or had been doing. I had only one purpose in my life at that time and it was to graduate with that degree and become a pharmacist so I could provide for my family.

So success is all in the mindset. Quincy Jones once said “If somebody can discourage you from your dream, then you should be.”

The strange thing is I have had a much more difficult time finding that focus now. So many life obstacles have happened in recent years that getting in the right “mindset” is much more difficult. Mark Januszewski said if you “Want to be a w-inner?  We’ve got to work on the Inner….we do that, the “w” shows up.” Here is a great video from Mark J #worldslaziestnetworker on becoming a winner.

As the late Jim Rohn always said, “REMEMBER THE SAME WIND BLOWS ON ALL OF US ITS THE SET OF YOUR SAIL THAT DECIDES YOUR COURSE!!” Set your sail for success in network marketing today by learning the skills for success. If you would like some personal help on this and any other aspects of network marketing then subscribe to my blog and be sure to check out some of my past posts. Also if you find value in my posts please share them with your team.

Keith Abell, RPh

http://AIMHighForSuccess.com

PS: Like I mentioned I have been having difficulties myself lately with keeping the right mindset. I am about to embark on a 6 month Master Key Master Mind Alliance #mkmma training program. Be sure to subscribe to this blog. I will post my thoughts and feelings as I go along. Hopefully my journey can help you as well.

What’s Bigger, Your Dreams Or Your Excuses – Post 324

Which is bigger, your dream or your excuses. I know in my own Network Marketing career I certainly have let the excuses win out. It is so important to figure our what your “Really Big Why” is. That one thing that will overcome all the excuses that you play inside your head.

Just wanted to share with you a a great, short blog post by Eric Worre on this subject.

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Thinking about the future – Post 053

“If you do not think about the future, you cannot have one.” 
Journalist, John Gale

Your action for today is to spend 5 minutes thinking about one of your goals or dreams.

Have an extraordinary day!

Keith Abell, RPh MI
Pharmacist – Senior Executive Marketing Director